Moving Out, Moving On & Moving Forward

Written By: Dawn - Jul• 05•12

We’ve been in the new house for nearly two weeks now. As with all new spaces, there have been some adjustments, some more challenging than others. We have neither figured out nor memorized which light switches do what. Someone turned on the patio fan two days ago and it remains on, perhaps for eternity. I’ll keep you posted.

We survived the move with help from family (my mother in particular) and friends who lifted, lugged and laid off the the judgement as they moved our “treasures” between houses. This move was by far the most disorganized we’ve ever been, brought on by the heat of summer and a powerful inertia to clear the old house until the last possible moment.  We have a few more stops to Goodwill before we’re finally settled into the new place.

As we’ve gone through this process I’m reminded that the more things change, the more they stay the same. Moving can be a cleansing experience as you purge the unwanted or needed excess of your life, but some things remain constant, fixed points of an existence, no matter how many times a physical locale is relocated.

For example-

The Better Half still bunches up his socks and stuffs them into the seat of the recliner.

Dakota still finds these socks and chews them up. (Sometimes the socks make a second appearance but that’s all I’ll say about that.)

Big Boy set up his computer and was torrenting files within 24 hours.

Little Bug has yet to meet a towel that doesn’t belong the floor of his room.

I really own a lot of shoes. And scrapbook supplies. And craft supplies. And holiday decorations. And books.

It also appears that our family status as the Simpsons of the block transferred to the new address. Despite being a mere 10 miles from our old neighborhood, the new digs are a world apart.

We discovered this last night, on the Fourth of July, when night fell and our happy dinner party of three families and some bonus kids took to the street to light fireworks (which are legal now in parts of AZ). No one else on the block lit up. A family a few doors down came outside to watch us and their small children squealed with delight. The man and woman across the street came out too, almost immediately, but were less than passionate patriots.

Little Bug, ever the good host, greeted them with a warm, “Happy Fourth of July!”

They responded with a terse, “Are there any adults there?”

The Better Half answered their question, moonlight gently reflecting off his wine glass.

Don’t they that 80% of communication is nonverbal? Even in the dark, their displeasure was clear. They abruptly turned and re-entered their home, which was shut up and dark as if its owners where away on a voyage around the world. No hello back to us. No introduction, this being the first exchange between our families. No interest in community.

It’s possible they felt uncomfortable around such revelry. They were vastly out numbered by kids, adults and wine glasses (don’t worry- safety first, they were plastic). Perhaps we’ve misread the the cues in the neighborhood -abundance of German autos, lack of greetings or visible signs of human presence- and mistakenly assumed that the new hood was similar in personally to the old one. Perhaps we’ll defy the odds and get a second chance to make a first impression. Perhaps we’ll need to demonstrate our skills with toilet paper and landscaping.

Change is inevitable, change is good and change brings opportunity. Settling into change can take some time. We spent 14 years in the old house and in that time built lovely relationships with some, but not all, of our neighbors. So I’m committed to give it some time, to be patient and hope for the best.

Hell, if I can survive moving all our junk here, moving heaven and earth should be a breeze!


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  1. Doug B says:

    Perhaps the neighbors across the street are Brits. 🙂

  2. Kate says:

    I hope your neighbors come around before Halloween!! Otherwise, the toilet paper landscaping sounds like a good plan. I will keep you posted if our new hood needs the same. : )

  3. Trish says:

    WOW! What a great website! Congrats! I love it!
    Keep going…

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